Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply
this secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering
undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They
never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad
days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.
Their is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken
relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks
friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to
the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often
seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be
discouraged. You can be different!. Understand and apply
the 90/10 secret. It will change your life! What is this
secret?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of
what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking
down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our
whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We
have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction. You
cannot control a red light, but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how
you react! Let's use an example.

You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter
knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You
have no control over what just happened. What happens next
will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking
the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After
scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize them
for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A
short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been
to busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your
daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40
miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.. After a 15 minute
delay and throwing $60 away, you arrive at school. Your
daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you
forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look
forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day? ___
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is d. You had no control over what happened
with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is
what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and
should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more
careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.
After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come
back down in time look through the window and see your
child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your
spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5
minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good of day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both
started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how
you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of
what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.

=> If someone says something negative about you, do not be
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do
have to let the negative comment affect you! React
properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction
could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting
stressed out, etc.

=> How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do
you loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend
of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump
them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10
principle, and do not worry about it!

=> You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get
irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and
time into finding another job.

=> The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule
for
the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight
attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use
your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be
amazed at the results.

About the Author

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