We Don't Take Them Crushed

A very important aspect to making your dreams come true
involves staying focused on your goal, believing, with your
whole heart, it is a reality.

Dreams and goals stand less of a chance of coming to
fruition if they've been crushed, or stomped on in any way.
This is common knowledge.

When we have a goal, we are told to hold fast to the dream,
don't waver, don't dilute. Wavering does not give the
Universe a chance to deliver. Diluting your dream, asking
for less than you originally intended, sends a conflicting
message to the Universe also.

We get so excited about our visions, we eagerly tell someone
else, maybe a family member, friend or neighbor - even a
significant other, and we forget, they aren't always on the
same wavelength as us. They push our 'How are you going to
do that?' buttons.

Did you know successful, high achievers don't think about
the 'How'? They don't think about 'How am I going to
achieve this?'. They simply focus on the What, and allow
the Universe to deliver the How.

If you get a reaction from someone after telling them about
your dream of, "No way", or "Hmmm" or "Yeah, right, I'll
believe it when I see it", or even a non-committal grunt,
quickly tell yourself "cancel, cancel" and redirect your
thoughts back to the positive vibe of your achievement. Do
not lose that dreamy, feel-good sensation. Continue to feel
it with all your heart. It's that feeling, that excitement
you experience when you visualize the goal, that makes it
all happen.

People who provide you with such responses are not able to
think of you and what you need. Their reply comes directly
from their own experiences and should definitely not be
taken seriously. I know, you can keep wishing others would
respond to your excitement with enthusiasm and support, but
the fact of the matter is, YOU are the only one who really
needs to be enthusiastic about your venture because YOU are
the only person who will make it a reality.

It's too bad for these other folks, however, the best thing
you could do with such responses (after cancelling any
negative effects fired your way) is to return love to them.
They obviously need it when they are unable to feel joy for
you and your excitement.

Strive to rise above it, do not take their comments
personally, for they are simply coming from the results of
their past history. It really has very little to do with
you and Now.

The flip side of these situations is to be aware of when we
may be squashing someone else's dreams. Have you caught
yourself saying 'no way' to someone else's dreams? Or being
less than enthusiastic when someone shares a bright idea?
Sometimes we inadvertently squash our kids' dreams in an
effort to 'protect' them from being hurt. The logic behind
this is to disappoint them before someone else does. Who
are we to say where our kid's dreams lay? It is a process
they are undergoing. It is how they determine FOR
THEMSELVES who they are, what they desire out of life.

Say your child shows a strong interest in skateboarding. He
- and I mean no gender bias, it's just relative to my life
and will make this read better - is passionate about it.
Does it 24/7. Eats, sleeps, breathes it. Only ever wants
to skate like the wind. Because of your own conditioning,
this may not be your dream for your child. You may believe
he can do so much more with his life. I don't feel this way
about skateboarding, by the way, but some adults do. Back
to the story...

He may or may not desire to become a world class
skateboarder. He may be unaware a desire could be felt so
strongly about anything. It's the process that matters. In
loving skateboarding - or whatever - he is learning what it
feels like to get to know himself. He is learning how to
care about something so much it makes him ache. He is also
learning about his world and how he is accepted in it based
on his love of something, his desires.

It is so vitally important that we accept people, our little
clones included, for their spirit. Not what they believe
in. Not what they love or don't love. Not what they look
like. Or don't look like. This is what we expect from
others, don't we?

About the Author

Article by Sue Dyson, publisher of SuccessfulMama Ezine,
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